Tuesday, January 12, 2010

LESSONS IN LIFE

# 1
Dont let someone become a priority in your life,
when you are just an option in theirs.
Relationships work best when they are balanced.

# 2
Never Explain yourself to anyone
Because the person who likes you doesnt need it
and the person who dislikes you wont believe it

# 3
When you keep saying you're busy, then you're never free,
When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time.
When you keep saying that you'll do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come.

# 4
We make them cry who care for us
We cry for those who never care for us
And we care for those who will never cry for us.

# 5
Dont promise when you are in joy,
Dont promise when you're in sorrow,
Dont take decisions when you're angry
Think twice. Act wise.

# 6
First I was dying to finish high school and start college,
And then I was dying to finish college and start working,
Then I was dying to marry and have children,
And then was dying for my children to grow old enough so I could go back to work,
But then I was dying to retire,
And now I am dying,
And I realised that I completely forgot to live........

Please dont let this happen to you. Appreciate your current situation and enjoy each da

BILL GATES PROBLEMS.....................................HOW TO HANDLE BANTA

Letter from Banta Punjab to Mr. Bill Gates of Microsoft

Subject: Problems with my new computer

Dear Mr. Bill Gates,

We have bought a computer for our home and we have found some problems, which I want to bring to your notice.

1. There is a button 'start' but there is no 'stop' button. We request you to check this.
2. We find there is 'Run' in the menu. One of my friends clicked 'run' he ran up to Amritsar ! So, we request you to change that to 'sit', so that we can click that by sitting.
3. One doubt is whether any 're-scooter' is available in system? I find only 're-cycle', but I own a scooter at my home.
4. There is 'Find' button but it is not working properly. My wife lost the door key and we tried a lot trace the key with this ' find' button, but was unable to trace. Please rectify this problem.
5. My child learn't 'Microsoft word' now he wants to learn 'Microsoft sentence', so when you will provide that?
6. I bought computer, CPU, mouse and keyboard, but there is only one icon which shows 'MY Computer': when you will provide the remaining items?
7. It is surprising that windows says 'MY Pictures' but there is not even a single photo of mine. So when will you keep my photo in that.
8. There is 'MICROSOFT OFFICE' what about 'MICROSOFT HOME' since I use the PC at home only.
9. You provided 'My Recent Documents'. When you will provide 'My Past Documents'?
10. You provide 'My Network Places'. For God sake please do not provide 'My Secret Places'. I do not want to let my wife know where I go after my office hours.

Regards,

Banta Last one to Mr. Bill Gates: Sir, how is it that your name is Gates but u are selling WINDOWS?

TOMORROW CAN BE TOO LATE

If you're mad with someone , and nobody's there to fix the situation... You fix it .
Maybe today, that person still wants to be your friend . And if u don't, tomorrow can be too late .

If you're in love with somebody , but that person doesn't know... tell him.
Maybe today, that person is also in love with you .
And if you don't say it, tomorrow can be too late .

If you really want to kiss somebody... kiss him.
Maybe that person wants a kiss from you, too . And if you don't kiss him today, tomorrow can be too late .

If you still love a person that you think has forgetten you... tell him.
Maybe that person have always loved you. And if you don't tell him today , tomorrow can be too late.

If you need a hug of a friend... ask him for it.
Maybe they need it more than you do. And if you don't ask for it today, tomorrow can be too late.

If you really have friends who you appreciate... tell them.
Maybe they appreciate you as well. That if you don't and they leave or go far away today , tomorrow can be too late.

If you love your parents, and never had the chance to show them... do it .
Maybe you have them there to show them how you feel. That if you don't and they leave today , then tomorrow can be too late.

SEND THIS NOTE, WHO SENT IT TO YOU. YOU'LL SEE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO KNOW THAT THERE IS SOME ONE WHO CARES ABOUT YOU , THAT YOU DIDN'T KNEW .

Take Care... coz tomorrow can be too late...



LOVE IS SEEING URSELF THROUGH SOMEONES EYES AND FINDING URSELF IN SOMEBODY'S HEART

Marriage does have its benefits.

When everybody on earth was dead and waiting to enter Paradise, God
appeared and said, "I want the men to make two lines One line
for the men who were true heads of their household, and the other line for
the men who were dominated by their women. I want all the women to report
to St Peter."

Soon, the women were gone and there were two lines of men. The line of the
men who were dominated by their wives was 100 miles long,
and in the line of men who truly were heads of their household, there was
only one man.

God said, "You men should be ashamed of yourselves. I created you to be the
head of your household! You have been disobedient and not
fulfilled your purpose! Of all of you, only one obeyed. Learn from him.

God turned to the one man, "How did you manage to be the only one in this
line?"

The man replied, "I don't know, my wife told me to stand here."

Monday, January 11, 2010

You just can't match Marwari !!!

ONLY a Marwari could have accomplished this:-


A keen immigrant Indian Marwari lad applied for a salesman's job at London's premier downtown department store.

In fact, it was the biggest store in the world - you could
get anything there.

The boss asked him, "Have you ever been a salesman before?" "Yes sir, I was a salesman in Rajasthan in India", replied the lad.

The boss liked the cut of him and said, "You can start tomorrow and I'll come and see you."

The day was long and arduous for the young man, but he got through it. And finally 6:00 PM came around. The boss duly fronted up and asked, "How many sales did you make today?"

"Sir, Just ONE sale." said the young salesman.
"Only one sale?" blurted the boss. "No! No! You see here, most of my staff make 20 or 30 sales a day.

"If you want to keep this job, you'd better be doing better than just one sale.

By the way "How much was the sale worth?"

"Three hundred thousand, five hundred and thirty four
pounds" said the young Marwari.

"What"," How did you manage that?" asked the flabbergasted boss.

"Well", said the salesman, "This man came in and I sold him a small fish hook, then a medium hook and finally a really large hook. Then I sell him new fishing rod and some fishing gear.

Then I asked him where he was going fishing and he said
down the coast. So I told him he'd be needing a boat, so I took him down to the boat department and sold him that twenty-foot schooner with the twin engines.

Then he said his Volkswagen probably wouldn't be able to pull it, so I took him to our automotive department and sold him that new Deluxe 4X4 Blazer.

I then asked him where he'll be staying, and since he had no
accommodation, I took him to camping department and sold him one of those new igloo 6-sleeper camper tents. Then the guy said, while we're at it, I should throw in about $100 worth of groceries and two cases of beer.

The boss took two steps back and asked in astonishment,
"You sold all that to a guy who came in for a fish hook!!"

"No" answered the salesman, "he came in to buy a box of Sanitary napkins for his wife and I said to him, "Sir, Your weekends screwed anyway, you might as well go fishing."

Bless men!

A man was riding his harley along a California beach when suddenly the sky clouded
 above his head and, in a booming voice, the Lord said,
'Because you have tried to be faithful
to me in all ways, I will grant you one wish.

The biker pulled over and said,

'Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can ride over anytime I want.'
The Lord said,
'Your request is materialistic, think of the enormous challenges for that kind of undertaking; the supports required reaching the bottom of the Pacific and the concrete and steel
it would take! It will nearly exhaust several natural resources. I can do it, but it is hard for me to
justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time and think of something that could
possibly help mankind.'

The biker thought about it for a long time. Finally, he said,

'Lord, I wish that I and all men could
understand women; I want to know how she feels inside, what she's thinking when she gives me
the silent treatment, why she cries, what she means when she says nothing's wrong, and how I can
make a Woman truly happy.'

The Lord replied,

'You want two lanes or four on that bridge.

Finally INTELLIGENT sardar mil gaya

A Sardarji and his wife are traveling by car from Key West
> to Boston.After almost twenty-four hours on the road,
> They're too tired to continue, and they decide to stop
> for a rest. They stop at a nice hotel and take a room, but
> they only plan to sleep for four hours and then get back on
> the road.
>
> When they check out four hours later, the desk clerk hands
> them a bill for $350.. The Sardarji explodes and demands to
> know why the charge is so high. He tells the clerk although
> it's a nice hotel, the rooms certainly aren't worth
> $350. When the clerk tells him $350 is the standard rate,
> the man insists on speaking to the Manager. The
>  Manager appears, listens to the Sardarji, and then
> explains that the hotel has an Olympic-sized pool and a huge
> conference center
> That were available for the husband and wife to use..
>
> But we didn't use them", the Sardarji complains.
>
> Well, they are here, and you could have," explains the
> Manager. He goes on to explain they could have taken in one
> of the shows for which the hotel is famous. "The best
> entertainers from New York, Hollywood and Las Vegas perform
> here," the Manager says.
>
> But we didn't go to any of those shows," sardarji
> complains again.
>
> "Well, we have them, and you could have", the
> Manager replies. No matter what facility the Manager
> mentions, the
> Sardarji replies "But we didn't use it". The
> Manager is unmoved, and eventually the Sardarji finally
> gives up and agrees to pay. He writes a check and gives it
> to the Manager.
>
> The Manager is surprised when the looks at the check.
> "But sir," he
>  says, "this check is only made out for $100."
> "That's right," says the sardarji,
>
> "I charged you $250 for sleeping with my wife."
>
> "But I didn't!" exclaims the Manager.
>
> "Well," the Sardarji replies, "she was here,
> and you could have."
>

POWER OF LOVE.....................ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

Once upon a time in China , a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law.

In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law' s habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.

Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that,
according to ancient Chinese tradition,
Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.

Finally,
Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law' s bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.

Mr. Huang
thought for awhile, and finally said, "Li-iL, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."

Li-Li said,"Yes, Mr. Huang,
I will do whatever you tell me to do. "Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you, when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. "Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen." Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering
her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother.

After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost
never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law' s attitude toward
Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.

One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep off the poison from killing my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."


Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head.
"Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to
improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her."

HAVE YOU REALIZED that
how you treat others is exactly how they will treat you? There is a wise Chinese saying: "The person who loves others will also be loved in return. God might be trying to work in another person's life through you. "A candle loses nothing if it is used to light another one . "

QUOTE OF THE DAY

“A man has to live with himself, and he should see to it that he always has good company.”

QUOTE OF THE DAY

IF YOU WANT TO HAVE FRIENDS, BE A FRIEND......................

What a touching moment !!!


What a touching moment !!!

Sunday, January 10, 2010

THE POWER OF TOLERANCE

IF YOU REALISE THAT 
EVERYONE IS AN INDIVIDUAL 
WITH HIS UNIQUE PART TO PLAY, 
THEN 
THE POWER OF TOLERANCE 
IS EASY TO DEVELOP.

THE ESSENCE OF TRUST

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand." "What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father. "There's a big difference," replied the little girl. "If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."
In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.
So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours...

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

THOSE WHO TELL YOU 
IT CAN'T BE DONE 
HAVE ALWAYS BEEN AROUND, 
BUT PROGRESS HAS ALWAYS 
COME FROM THOSE 
WHO SAID IT COULD BE DONE.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Funny Oxymorons

Funny Oxymorons


An oxymoron is usually defined as a phrase in which two words of contradictory meaning are brought together. The are a few examples: 

1) Clearly misunderstood

2) Exact estimate

3) Small crowd

4) Act naturally

5) Found missing

6) Fully empty

7) Pretty ugly

8) Seriously funny

9) Only choice

10) Original copies


Another Oxymoron was used on Americans, when they couldnt find weapons of mass destruction

11) American intelligence

And Mother of all

12) Happily Married!

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

GOOD MORNING FRIENDS.....


HOPE ANTICIPATES,
FAITH BELIEVES,
AND
PATIENCE QUIETLY WAITS.

Small truth to make our Life

100% successful....

(if)
A = 1
B = 2
C = 3
D = 4
E = 5
F = 6
G = 7
H = 8
I = 9
J = 10
K = 11
L = 12
M = 13
N = 14
O = 15
P = 16
Q = 17
R = 18
S = 19
T = 20
U = 21
V = 22
W = 23
X = 24
Y = 25
Z = 26
______
Then

H = 8
A = 1
R = 18
D = 4
W = 23
O = 15
R = 18
K = 11

Makes 98%
______

K = 11
N = 14
O = 15
W = 23
L = 12
E = 5
D = 4
G = 7
E = 5

Makes 96%
_____

L = 12
O = 15
V = 22
E = 5

Makes 54%
_____

L = 12
U = 21
C = 3
K = 11

Makes 47%

(None of them makes 100%)
_____

Then what makes 100%??

Is it Money? ..... NO!!!

Leadership? ..... NO!!!

Every problem has a solution, only if we perhaps change our "ATTITUDE".


It is OUR ATTITUDE towards, Life and Work that makes, OUR Life 100% Successful..

A = 1
T = 20
T = 20
I = 9
T = 20
U = 21
D = 4
E = 5
Makes 100%

Appearances can be misleading. How does our inner Ego sometimes misjudge a person.

 A lady in a faded grey dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun
 suit, walked in timidly, without an appointment into the Harvard
 University President's outer office. The secretary could tell in a
 moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard
 and probably didn't even deserve to be in Harvard.

"We want to see the President "the man said softly.
 "He'll be busy all day "the secretary snapped.
 "We'll wait" the lady replied.

For hours the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would go away.They didn't and the secretary grew frustrated. She finally decided to disturb the president.
 


"Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they'll leave" she said to
 him. The President, stern faced and with dignity, strutted towards the
 couple.

The lady told him "We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He
 loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was
 accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial
 to him, somewhere on campus."

The president wasn't touched....He was shocked. "Madam "he said,
 gruffly, " we can't put up a statue for every person who attended
 Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery."

"Oh, no," the lady explained quickly"We don't want to erect a statue.
 We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard."

The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and
 homespun suit, and then exclaimed, "A building ! Do you have any
 earthly idea how much a building costs? We have over seven and a half
 million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard.."

For a moment the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he
 could get rid of them now. The lady turned to her husband and said
 quietly, "Is that all it costs to start a university ? Why don't we
 just start our own?"
 Her husband nodded. The president's face wilted in confusion and
 bewilderment. Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford got up and walked away,
 travelling to Palo Alto, California where they established the

 University that bears their name..Stanford University, a memorial to a
 son that Harvard no longer cared about.

Most of the time we judge people by their outer appearance, which can
 be misleading. And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly
 by thinking they can do nothing for us. Thus we tend to lose our
 potential good friends, employees or customers.

 Remember
 In our Life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share & grow
 our thought process.But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever.

 It is you who have to decide with whom you are getting associated in
 day to day life.

Small people talk about others,
Average people talk about things,
Great people talk about ideas.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil.In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.She let them sit
and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the
mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as
she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity - boiling water. Each reacted differently.


The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. Ifyou are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.


When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?


May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.


The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

Life Is a Gift

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.
He asked her,'Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?' The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes. Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.
Life Is a Gift

Today before you say an unkind word - Think of someone who can't speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to GOD for a companion.
Today before you complain about life - Think of someone who died too early on this earth.
Before you complain about your children - Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.
Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep - Think of the people who are living in the streets.
Before whining about the distance you drive Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job - Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.
But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another - Remember that not one of us is without sin.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down - Put a smile on your face and think: you're alive and still around.

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It Depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's Weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer:
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with Your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked Their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a Completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the Imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing There; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the Natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls Become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you Think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry The right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of The love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their Unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is The most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You Could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the _expression "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it Takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific Things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), There are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise Program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your Relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... You can "make" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.
"We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them". -- Mother Teresa

Monday, January 4, 2010

A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP.................

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the
cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and fascinated by its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to
the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.

QUESTIONS:
1. What were the four words?
2. What is the implication of this story?

ANSWER:
The husband just said "I Love You Darling".
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behaviour. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not happen.

No one is to be blamed. She had lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiving attitude, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

"A successful relationship requires falling in love many times with the same person . ."


Comments:
1. true . but hard to implement
2.Oh superb
3.very true.......
4.such reactions are normally not spontaneous.There is a lapse on part of the parents which they would be regretting all their lives!Easier said than done.The lesson for others is never delegate things of such immediate concerns.

GOD MADE THE WOMEN SHARE

By the time the Lord made woman,He was into his sixth day of
working overtime. An angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much
time on this one?"

And the Lord answered, "Have you seen my spec sheet on her? She
has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have over 200 movable parts,
all replaceable and able to run on diet coke and leftovers, have a lap
that can hold four children at one time, have a kiss that can cure anything
from a scraped knee to a broken heart and she will do everything with
only two hands."

The angel was astounded at the requirements."Only two hands!? No way!

And that's just on the standard model?

That's too much work for one day.

Wait until tomorrow to finish."

"But I won't," the Lord protested. "I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when
she is sick AND can work 18 hours a day."

The angel moved closer and touched the woman. "But you have made her so soft, Lord."

"She is soft," the Lord agreed, "but I have also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."

"Will she be able to think?", asked the angel.

The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, she
will be able to reason and negotiate."

The angel then noticed something, and reaching out, touched the
woman's cheek."Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model. I told
you that you were trying to put too much into this one."

"That's not a leak," the Lord corrected, "that's a tear!"

"What's the tear for?" the angel asked.

The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy,her sorrow, her
pain, her disappointment, her love, her loneliness, her grief and her pride."

The angel was impressed. "You are a genius, Lord. You thought
of everything! Woman is truly amazing."

And she is!

Women have strengths that amaze men. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love, and joy. They smile when they
want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are
happy and laugh when they are nervous. They fight for what they believe in. They stand up to injustice. They don't take "no" for an answer when
they believe there is a better solution. They go without so their family
can have. They go to the doctor with a frightened friend. They
love unconditionally. They cry when their children excel and cheer
when their friends get awards. They are happy when they hear about a birth
or a wedding. Their hearts break when a friend dies. They grieve
at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. They'll drive, fly,
walk, run, or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning. They bring joy, hope and love. They have compassion and ideals. They give moral support to their family and friends. Women have vital things to say and everything to give.


HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

An excellent fact not a fiction.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010

WISHING ALL MY FRIENDS A VERY HAPPY AND EVENTFUL 2010